Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Quality, Not Quantity


Oh, right – the blog…
There’s been a lot of give and take in the Foy house over the last couple of months.  Trading in toys on shelves for toys strategically scattered on the floor so that I trip over at least two on my way out the door (and then sometimes fall onto the dog who I believe has also strategically placed himself in my path as well).  Trading matching clothes for simply clean clothes…well thought out meals for hodge-podge dinners…and Foy Tale posts for spending those few precious hours after daycare pick-ups but before bedtime glued to James with the intention of tricking his mind into thinking we’re together for more of the day than we actually are and hoping that he doesn’t notice when I crawl into the fort we made and close one eye – okay, sometimes both eyes.
You take what you’re given, you work your ass off during the day with the hope of being able to leave it all behind, shut it off, or at least tuck it away for later so that you can come home and focus on nothing else but your family – come home and just be “Mama”.  And while some days are easier than others, you find a way to make it work, to stretch yourself being careful not to overstretch yourself.  Trading in “that’s not the way I do it” (or “ the way it’s supposed to be done”) for “thanks for the help.”  Giving up a little of your pride when you just can’t rally for “Super-Mom Saturday” after a 60 hour work week. (Super-Mom Saturday is defined as a Saturday where I get up have breakfast with James, clean the entire house – yep, potties and all, make a snack for James, do most of the laundry, feed James lunch and put him down for a nap all before Eddie gets home from the golf course…and to be honest it’s only been done a handful of times.)  
There were days over the last several weeks when I could just coast right on through and the days when the bus left track marks on my face.  Either way, there were things on my to-do list that didn’t get done.  And the last few months have taught me that that’s okay.  At the end of the day, I know that I gave it my all, and more importantly that I gave them my all.  I was attentive to patients, I made my kid laugh, I called a friend on the way home, I dried my hair with my hairdryer on the “low” setting so that I wouldn’t wake Eddie up at 4:30 in the morning, I turned on a light so I wouldn’t fall over Max again.  I’m not going to lie and tell you that I didn’t doze off at one point during a riveting game of hide-and-seek with James and Eddie (and Max sometimes) or pretend like I didn’t have to wait an extra 30 minutes at the Kangaroo on Gorman Street for Eddie’s brother, Charlie, to graciously drive across Raleigh and fill my car up with gas because I left my wallet at home – 25 miles away – 2 days in a row. And until I succeed in squeezing 36 hours into one day I’m definitely okay with that – even though it could get expensive seeing as how I also owe my friend, Mary-Beth, 2 lunches and a few Diet Mountain Dews after she bailed me out at lunch and helped to prevent me from experiencing symptoms of caffeine withdrawal on my wallet-less days. 
There have been plenty of conversations with James I’ve wanted to share, moments in the afternoon that begged me to run and write about them, weekends that needed reflection, and thoughts and feelings that deserved to be strung together with the perfect words so that I can look back and remember the little things that make our little bit of time together so much more than little.  But the Foy Family has been a little busy and in our family, life trumps writing about life.  In our family, quality for quantity looks a bit like this:

Playing with Tractors:






Sliding With Daddy:

 
 Sliding All By Himself:


Trying to get myself into a couple of shots...it still needs work:


Discovering Drainage Grates: (fun times in Johnston County)

Further exploring fascination with ROCKS:

...And Mulch:

Eating Noodles the FUN way:

Celebrating Birthdays:
My sister, Shannon, (right) celebrated her 21st birthday in January.  My sister, Katie, is on the left.

Playing with Chop-Sticks:

Walking on the beach for the first time:
Though James has been to the beach a few times already, he wasn't able to walk then.  He absolutely loved it!

Chasing "Tweet-Tweet's" on the beach:  (Birds)
Watching waves crash:

Realizing how cold the beach can be in February:

...But loving it anyway!

Watching the sunrise:


Eating breakfast on the porch with Mama:


Riding "tractors" in hotel hallways with Daddy":

Building a Fort:



Going to birthday parties for friends:

Only eating the Icing:
 ...and the Cheetos:

Wishing Boompa a Happy Birthday:

Tuesday, January 10, 2012

And a (Fashionably Late) Merry Christmas to You!



There is something about Christmas time.  A time when even the hearts of the Grinch-iest of Grinches  can grow three sizes in one day.  A time when we find ourselves singing “pa rum pum pum pum” even if it’s the 28th time we’ve heard Little Drummer Boy blasting throughout the mall…we get it dude – you don’t have a gift for Baby Jesus, but you’ve got a drum to play while He sleeps – I bet Mary and Joseph sure appreciate that one!   And while we celebrate with friends at parties and make special efforts to carve out time with our families, we’re experienced enough to know that all this merriment and excitement is because it’s Christmas time, even if the true meaning of Christmas slips into the back of our minds at times .  
But this year was different.  This year Eddie and I caught a firsthand glimpse of how even those too young to understand what the hustle and bustle was all about could project the spirit of Christmas better than the Head Elf himself.  And though he wasn’t sure what all the parades were for or why there was a big tree in every house he visited, he did know Something was up…and boy was he excited!
I, on the other hand, treated the Christmas season as more of a business project – checking off to-do lists, scheduling the what, when and where’s, just going through the motions, focusing on how much I could fit into the season so that I could show James what Christmas time was instead of what Christmas time was actually meant to be.  With every passing day I became more and more exhausted and stressed while James became more and more amazed and enthusiastic.  I took the approach to stop and take it all in when it was all said and done, working tirelessly to get there while James soaked up all the Christmas magic he could in the moment.   

 Just a few days before Christmas, I saw James spellbound by a toy carousel at my grandparents house that played Christmas carols.  He was fascinated by the reflective stickers and swayed back and forth to the music then clapped and cheered when each song finished.  Now if you recall his experience with Old Saint Nick from the previous post, you’re probably aware that the carousel was a much bigger hit than sitting on a stranger’s lap.  I didn’t have to carry him all the way to the “North Pole” or “Gingerbread Mountain” in order for him to see what Christmas was all about, the kid had found the spirit of Christmas all on his own.  Taking a moment watch James I started to realized that I could cross things off my to-do list that I really didn’t have “to do”, put the camera down a little more every now and then – to stop and be in awe along with James, letting him figure out what Christmas actually is by taking it all in rather than running myself ragged trying to fit it all in.  

 Here's how we celebrated this year!

We picked out the perfect tree...
G-Daddy (my Dad) sold Christmas trees this year.  Every day after picking James up from daycare we would go for visit.
We decorated (and re-decorated) Christmas trees...
G-daddy and CiCi used colored lights
James loved the bell ornament...I mean REALLY loved the bell ornament.

Granna's (my mom) Christmas Tree was beautiful enough to entertain James for hours!
We made Gingerbread Houses...
Constructing a Gingerbread house BEFORE I realized my sister was taking a picture...
Constructing gingerbread houses AFTER I realized my sister was taking a picture.




At least I made sure his sleeves were rolled up!


James was more interested in "landscaping" the gingerbread house than decorating it.
Yes...I know  the mess could have been much worse.

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The finished product!



We decorated wagons...
We watched parades...
Smithfield Christmas parade.
Santa at the Raleigh Christmas Parade.
James was more interested in the truck pulling Santa's sleigh.
...And dancing to the Christmas music the bands played.

James was slightly confused by the enormous pink monster being pulled by 50 grown men.




We had classroom parties...
 
We made cookies...
 We clapped & made an attempt at singing Christmas Carols...


 We hung out as a family...




We played with the trucks Santa brought...



We ate waffles for breakfast in the den...
 We hung stockings...
 We ran around the house in monster feet...
 And rode "tractors"...
I understand this is not a "tractor" but it has 4 wheels and in James' book qualifies as a tractor.


We ate...

 And ate...
 


 And ate...
Thanks for the animal cookies Gramdmama and Papa...James has developed quite an addiction.



Next year we’ll be able to further explain to James that Christmas is kind of like a big birthday party for Baby Jesus – and we sing carols at the top of our lungs and decorate our houses with a billion lights and make cookies for Santa and travel out to a farm to watch the Christmas Nativity all to celebrate Him.  And while he may not quite grasp the miracle of the whole thing, I’m confident his Christmas spirit will radiate out of him enough to remind everyone around him to stop and take in the wonder of it all.